What I love about this speech is that Robert Kennedy is basically saying that each of us have a choice. We can choose to be humble to our pain and loss or to retaliate in hate and revenge, in avoidance of that pain.
I believe that humble hearts are the foundations of true and lasting peace on this planet.
Frankly though a problem I see at times is this:
People hear us say that humility involves an openness to every emotion within them.
People tryto focus on their emotions without a clear desire to change themselves, see their errors or their embrace their lives. This creates self-absorption. This is not humble.
In fact these people are overlooking the fact that humility also involves openness to every situation and person they encounter. Someone who is self- centered, self-absorbed is the opposite of this. They are actually self-interested. They resist life and those around them in favour of focus on their own emotions.
A humble person allows their own emotional experience without resistance, and without valuing it over another person’s experience.
Humility also involves honouring the truth that each of us are of equal value, as brother and sister, all children of God. A person spending all of their time and energy trying to manufacture humility is valuing their own pointless endeavour over the feelings and experiences of others.
The fact that a person must try to embody humility means that they are resistive to simply putting it into action. When we want a thing, we engage it. When we can’t, we find out why and take steps to change these blocks. But we never have to push or force ourselves into it.
Trying, as I have often said before, is lying*.
Sad Fact: By tryingto focus solely on their emotions people often miss the point. They become less humble and more self-involved.
Often people try to be humble in order to gain approval, to feel they are ‘living the path’ the ‘right’ way. These people miss the point that ‘The Way’ is a journey, undertaken with the Father. He sees us and knows us but even the attempt to manufacture a facade of humility distances His Heart from our own. It is better to be honest about who we are and where we are at, than to push ourselves towards tears or to create ‘paralysis through intellectual analysis’** of our ‘issues’.
Indeed, being real and open about who we are, without expectation or demand for approval or reward, these are the beginnings of walking in humility.
While people focus totally on their own emotions and try to access them (thinking that this is what we mean is the basis of a relationship with God) they miss out on understanding true humility. Ironically, I have seen people living in emotional addiction, avoiding the deepest truths about themselves, and hiding it all behind the banner of ‘humility’.
Such people become isolated and separated. They use a ‘spiritual term’ to justify pushing their emotions onto others. In this, they not only distance themselves from God but they damage others’ understanding of what it means to live humbly.
In contrast, true humility automatically creates connection, not only with self, but with others.
The qualities of service, leadership, the willingness to confront error and bring about change, all flow from this magic quality humility.
To be humble we must stop trying, and begin allowing what God is truly telling us through our life and our feelings.
Recently I completed a series of interviews (no less than five) with Jesus surrounding the quality of true humility. I am inspired, as always, by the simplicity and power of what he spoke of.
I feel though that we all must be careful that simply hearing these truths does not lead us the arrogance of believing that we live them. That endeavor will take more of our time. The process of truly becoming humble is far more engaging, and beautiful.
Humility is the gift that we would offer our Heavenly Father in order that we would come to know Him and receive His Love and Truth.
It is the vital key to our homecoming.
* This saying was told to me many years ago by a workshop leader. As the years go by, I see again and again, how true this is.
**The saying ‘paralysis from analysis’ comes from one of our dear friends, Susan.